The part where I tell you and everyone else, my preference. But the most important part of this is done. I don't claim to know all the in's and outs of this. There are some of you out there who will roll your eyes. And most importantly with her journey and my own with her. It is reassuring on a soul level and it is helping me. It feels like an acceptance I never had before. She is reaching out to me in a way she never did before. It is exhausting yet so delicately beautiful. Care taking a loved one who slowly takes that journey will shift your priorities very fast. 'It changes you.' a dear friend said to me. I think my mom's journey in hospice has something to do with this. And since I expressed this a huge part of me has healed. The most important part of this process for me, is that I *express* it. I am not going to stress about it because stress robs me of the most important thing in my life, my peace of mind. I do care that people know this about me.īut hey if you slip up absolutely no big deal. I am non binary and I prefer to be referred to as They. I got use to using 'They' to describe one person and suddenly it became clear. But then I met some pretty awesome 'They's' and some of my kids' friends started using it too. And the 'They' Pronoun seemed too confusing. I kept telling myself that it didn't matter what people called me - yet neither pronoun felt accurate to me. Many around me have changed their pronoun to more accurately reflect who they are inside. I am baba to the kids and that works for me. But I still care so much about those communities and hold those issues dear to me. As time went on and I matured, I realized that even as a part of the feminist & LGBTQ community I didn't seem to fit in - in the way that others did. I continued to live life as a androgynous gay woman feeling a bit out of place pretty much everywhere. Also as a deeply spiritual person I truly felt that spirit put me in this body for a reason. So many deal with this kind of anguish when they do not identify with the gender they are born. It absolutely did not feel safe for me to do that. It would make me incredibly happy to think about, but when the reality of how a change like that would affect my family relations sank in, it was too much for me emotionally. As a child I even prayed that god would change me. There were times when I would fantasize about gender reassignment surgery. I had to conform to all that was expected of me as a 'young lady'.

I was in a very conservative household and expressing that was not allowed. Growing up, I mostly identified as male even though I was woman born. 'Ginger's music embodies a substance and beauty that really stands out and is a must see for music fans of all kinds.' Susie Beiersdorfer ~ Youngstown OH UUįor a long time I have been in a gender quandary. Donna Davis, Events Coodinator Oakbrook Center for Spiritual Living Her (their) captivating beats and soulful voice lifts the vibration of the listener and is a transformational experience.!” “Ginger Doss is a phenomenal performer and an exceptional beam of light in the world. Aislinn Firehawk, LMT, Music Coordinator, Gaea Goddess Gathering “The energy & spunk Ginger brings to her (their) music & performance will make even the shyest of people want to get up & dance! Her (their) music moves you at every level of your being!!! ” wake your soul, and set your heart on fire!! HOLD ON TIGHT ~ The Chakra Rock of ginger doss will rock your body. They have self produced all four of their independently released albums are currently working on a 5th ~ a concept album called Sacred Flow merging sacred practice and symbol with song. They won a Posi Music Award for the song Thankful and the Audience Appreciation Award in the Women in the Arts Talent Competition at National Women's Music Fest ~ one of the country's largest and longest running women's music fests. They tour extensively throughout the US and Canada igniting audiences with high energy performances and music that radiates with all the colors and callings of the divine. Their dynamic and compelling songwriting explores multiple genres, including rock, alternative groove, tribal and folk and is inspired from a passionate and diverse study of spirituality.

Ginger doss ( They/Them ) is a performing songwriter, music producer, spiritual practitioner and inspirational speaker.

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